The famous story about Barbara Pym is that--after a long run--she fell out of fashion. Her career seemed to be over. Then, British luminaries were asked to name the most underrated writer of the past 75 years. (Why not?) Only one name earned double recognition--from Philip Larkin and from a critic. The name was Barbara Pym. It's a cliche to say, "I didn't want this book to end." I almost always want a book to end. I get ready for the next option. But, with Barbara Pym's "The Sweet Dove Died," I did actually ration the pages--because I didn't want the book to end. "Dove," the final Pym book published in Pym's own lifetime, is deliberately darker than Pym's legendary "early-career" novels ("Excellent Women," "A Glass of Blessings," and so on). It's also full of sex. Gay sex! (Pym has an elliptical style, at times, but you can sense what she is alluding to.) Finally, Pym's characters are very real...
The strange thing about any kind of good family counseling is that little asides can have more weight than the "big declamatory" moments. I was flustered at the start of a session because I had just finished an hour of tutoring, and my student's "absolute value" chapter did not match my own "absolute value" chapter. I had prepared certain material--and I then had to observe, in real time, that I'd made an error and I'd created a need for on-the-spot course correction. I happen to be weirdly insecure about absolute value, and I had to say, in a faux-calm voice, "We'll start here next week." The counselor I talk to rummaged around in her "cognitive-behavioral" toolbox. Apparently, if something small is bothering you, you have to "drill down" to a core belief, the real source of the distress. Then you have to try to "tell a different story" about yourself. So--for example--if you flub a question about a...