What a profound delight Delia Ephron's new memoir is. Ephron has a gift for building characters. On her father-in-law: "This guy's son watched a car accident in which his mother was decapitated. This guy finally arrives at the scene of the crime, and his little son says, What took you so long ? And the answer: A shrug, plus, The subway stalled . No attempt at an emotional connection. Which says something big about twenty years of my husband's life." Ephron, planning her spouse's funeral: "One friend's husband wrote and said that my decision to limit the number of speakers was a sign of my deep cruelty. He said that I was shallow, and that I only wanted to spend time with Hollywood stars. The letter went on and on! He said I had permanently wounded his husband. Remember I was in mourning. My spouse of many years had just died." On one clueless doctor, who will not address you by name and who will make sure that you're appropriately misera...