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 We're trying to upend our feeding habits. We're having sweet potato fries and peeled apples. If you give an apple skin to my older child, he will simply chew it, then spit it or let it dribble down his front; this is big fun for him.


I will never be a mindful eater; my preferred routine is to inhale fried foods while half-watching Sondheim clips on YouTube. I'm concerned my daughter is learning my habits. Yesterday, she left her hands at her sides and just lowered her entire face toward a veggie chip, as if she were a "magic claw" from an arcade game.

A massive project is to get Josh drinking from a straw; this will open new doors for him, apparently. I'm deeply tired of ordering and reordering the "TalkTools" Honey Bear straw-cup, just to watch Josh hurl it across the room, then to discover that my dog has chewed a hole through the bottom. The feeding specialist says that Josh should simply "spend therapeutic time with the straw"; the straw doesn't need to make contact with a human, but just being out on display can be a good thing. When I hear this, I make an effort not to roll my eyes, and I eagerly agree that straw-use is certainly in my family's immediate future; it's around the corner, or whistling down the river. Could be. Who knows.

This week, we're making time for steamed carrots.

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