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My Son Josh

 So often, my son's particular challenges seem to run on a parallel track to my own.


Right now, I'm reentering the work world, and I'm reminded of a NYT piece, "Your Job Will Never Love You Back." Dealing with other people means: sudden, inconsiderate cancellations, weirdly unpleasant payroll supervisors, frustrating miscommunications with babysitters. (The oddest recent sitter exchange: "How do I change the diaper when the child won't be still?" I pretended that this was a reasonable question, and I said, "Just let the child win!")

My son has this kind of issue, on a smaller scale. We are putting him through a boot camp of play dates. How difficult it is to function in the social world! My son gets irritated if he cannot control the light switch, cannot plunge the crowd into total darkness every five to ten seconds. If he builds an obstacle course with cushions, he becomes deeply annoyed by unsolicited input. He is a mimic, and he has certain characters in his repertoire--but he doesn't always warn his peers that he will be giving a performance. So their response--befuddlement--is not ideal.

But he keeps going; he is a champ, in that way. I'd like to enroll him in theater classes--this is how Audra McDonald coped with her *own* ADHD--but I need to take a close look at Kindergarten, for now. One thing at a time.

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